This started as a blog about training together as a family, in part to inspire other women & families to get involved. As female participation in jiu jitsu has increased, as we have grown as athletes and as we learned that families training together aren’t such an anomaly, the blog has evolved. Jen gets personal with posts on ambition, challenges & achievements in BJJ, CrossFit & with nutrition, while Tom's posts are more educational, informative and analytical in regards to training. On occasion you may hear from the kids.

Friday, December 16, 2011

That 4 letter word is back.

by Jen

That dirty little word is back. I've written about it before. A four letter contraction that can paralyze me. The word is CAN'T!

I think it has been around this whole week, but I consciously noticed it last night. My fourth roll was with Tom. It was a tough night all around and he had full mount. His 170+ lbs felt like 250. I just stopped and said, "Forget it, I can't escape. I give up."

I have been able to escape before. I have recalled the "move like the water" philosophy and wiggled my way out. But last night, after already getting tapped out several times, I said I can't.

In an effort to start banishing this word from my vocabulary I have been giving thought to what it really means to me. Here's what I came up with.

  • I don't want to.
  • I'm afraid.
  • It's not important enough to me.
  • I'm frustrated.

    I suspect that if replacing "I can't" with the real meaning, the words will be much more difficult to say and help me deal with the issue at hand. In a way, I guess it's a lot like growing up and accepting responsibility for your decisions and actions.

    1. Great post Jen. I catch myself saying that more often than I should. I will try to remember and replace "I can't" with what I really mean! :)