Today officially marks the start of Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM). This post is inspired by this awareness video produced by the Verizon Foundation. I will follow up with a secondary post that will better weave the topic with bjj training (as I see it anyway).
Statistics show that one in four women will be affected by domestic violence in her lifetime. Approximately one in three teens is a victim of physical, emotional or verbal abuse from a dating partner. Although the majority of victims are female, approximately 15% of all domestic violence victims are male.
I feel blessed to say that I am not one of these statistics. So why is the subject of domestic violence so important to me? My 7 years of work for a dv program gave me the privilege of meeting several “victors” over the violence in their lives. These inspirational women and men now dedicate themselves to speaking out for others. I have also come to know and love families who have lost their daughters at the hand of their abusers. To these individuals, and the countless others that domestic violence affects, I dedicate this post.
I believe it is important to start out by debunking some common dv myths.
Some bloggers have touched on the subject of domestic violence. Forgive me if I left anyone out. Please feel free to comment with your link if I did.
Jodi of Combat Sports Review bravely opened up about her experience as a victor over the violence in her life. Read here
Meg reflected on domestic violence after experiencing stares because of her bjj induced black eye. Read here
A Skirt on the Mat also asked her readers to reflect and support the women who’s bruises come from the hands of their abusers instead of their time on the mat. Read here
I compiled a few resources in case you or someone you know is being abused. If you are in fear for your life, please take heed of this internet and computer safety information before anything else.
How to help a victim of abuse
Ten signs of an abusive relationship
Healthy relationship (This is great. I once met a woman who told me she posted this wheel in her room as a reminder to herself of what a healthy relationship looks like. It served as a "checklist" for her future relationships.)
Love is not abuse– teen dating abuse information for teens and parents